Over the weekend I read a book by a friend of mine. The entire book was great, I will tell you more about it later, but one part of it has stuck in my mind for a couple days and I feel I should share this with you today and expound on this short definition that won’t stop rolling over and over in my mind.

Pastor Karen Jethroe gave a definition of the word influence, it was that simple, but it opened up an entire new conversation between God and I.

Pastor Karen’s book says this; Influence is the power to change or affect someone or something: the power to cause changes without directly forcing them to happen.

I just love this! I especially love the part that says ‘without directly FORCING them to happen.’
Oh, as a Mom and a Nana, I can so relate to this! There have been times when I wanted something in my daughter to change, I could see it needed to change, however, the more I tried to force it to change, the worse it became…can any of you Mom’s and Dad’s relate? I bet you can!

It has taken me many years but I have learned to truly let go and give it to God.

2 Thessalonians 3:5 says; Now may the Lord direct your hearts into the love of God and into the patience of Christ.

James 1:4 says; But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.

I have learned that patience plays a big part in being a person of influence, a person who has the power to bring change without forcing it.

I have learned to be patient when I see people who I feel need to change certain things. I have learned to keep my mouth shut entirely UNTIL GOD tells me to speak. Why? When I wait entirely on God, He goes before me and paves the way, prepares the heart and the words I speak are received.

Years ago a friend of mine felt she should ‘correct’ another friend of mine. And she did. It was not received well at all and those two people are no longer friends. It was sad to me, the one friend was correct about what the other was doing BUT her delivery was so judgmental and harsh it was not received well. Therefore it brought division and hurt and anger and it was never repaired.

This is the second part of the key to being a person of influence. If you do feel you must say something, how you do it is vital. If you come across as religious or judgmental, it won’t be received well. However, if you wait on God and do all things out of love, with love and concern in your voice, you will be heard.

Ephesians 4:15 says; speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ.

1 Corinthians 16:14 says; do all things in love.

If correction is your motivator, I would stop and seek God before I spoke. If love is your motivator, you are walking in the love of God. Let love lead you. Allow wisdom to guide you and wait for God’s timing…if you do these things, you will certainly become a person of influence!


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