Ecclesiastes 3:7 declares, “there is a time to keep silent and a time to speak.”
For most of us, speaking up is not a problem, however being quiet can be a struggle. Especially when you feel you have an opinion on the subject. Most of us have an opinion, don’t we?
I find it interesting that the words before this scripture is…there is a time to tear apart and a time to mend. Sometimes when we speak our own opinion without waiting on God’s wisdom, we tear apart. Words often tear people apart…I don’t want any part of that.
Therefore, I have learned to do as 1 Thessalonians 4:11 says; And make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands.
And, I have learned to practice restraint when I have an opinion.
The one who has knowledge uses words with restraint, and whoever has understanding is even-tempered. Even fools are thought wise if they keep silent, and discerning if they hold their tongues. Proverbs 17:27-28
The Passion Translation says it like this:
Can you bridle your tongue when your heart is under pressure? That’s how you show that you are wise. An understanding heart keeps you cool, calm, and collected, no matter what you’re facing. When even a fool bites his tongue he’s considered wise. So shut your mouth when you are provoked—it will make you look smart.
One of the greatest lessons I have learned from God is to keep my mouth shut until I hear from Him. I have learned that even if I possess wisdom and insight in a certain situation, if I speak before God gives me the okay, that person is usually not going to hear what I have to say. However, if I wait upon the Lord and speak what He says…when He says speak…their heart is open and receptive.
We may look at a situation and know in our heart it is wrong. We may even be able to back it up with scripture – however, I believe it is wisdom to seek the Lord concerning the matter and wait…wait, until He gives you the okay to speak what you know to be true. Then, and only then, speak with love.
So many relationships are torn apart because of words.
Proverbs 21:23 says; Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.
If you want less trouble in your relationships, keep your mouth closed until God tells you to speak. Live a quiet life and mind your own business. Oh, I know! It can be a struggle to keep quiet when what you are seeing or hearing seems wrong. However, I also know, when we speak what God says, when He says speak, it is with power and yoke destroying anointing. That’s what we really need, don’t you agree? Only that can mend hearts and reveal truths in love. Until then…remain quiet.
Meditate on this:
My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. James 1:19