One day, a few years ago, I received a call from a friend. It was someone I had been friends with for many years. We were once close friends; however, life had taken us different directions and we now only speak a couple times a year.
This wasn’t a normal call to catch up. It was a call she needed to make to let me know I had hurt her unknowingly. It was at a time when her life seemed to fall apart. I thought I was being there for her, but she felt I wasn’t. She felt I didn’t help her at the time she needed it most. She knew I had the ability to help, but I didn’t do what she needed me to do. She felt betrayed and hurt.
As I listened to her, my flesh wanted to interrupt and explain why I hadn’t done more. I wanted to justify my actions and I could have, but I remained silent and listened.
When she finished talking, I said, “I am so sorry I hurt you. That was never my intention. Please forgive me.” She replied, “Thank you, I do. That is what I needed to hear.”
That conversation taught me a lot that day. It taught me that we often hold others to a different standard than we do ourselves. We expect more from them. At times when we desire mercy, we give judgment. We misjudge people for reacting to situations that we have no idea how we would have reacted. In doing so, we hurt others without realizing it. We cause offense.
Later, while I was thinking of our conversation, the Lord spoke to me and said, “Kim, do you think a stopped up well is the same as a dry well? Will it have the same results?”
My response was, “Yes, both neither would allow water to flow.” He gently spoke and said, “You are correct, your well is not dry, it is stopped up, unstop your well.”
The Bible says we will know the truth and the truth we know will set us free. This truth set me free that day. I had caused an offense, and it had to be dealt with. That offense had played a part in stopping up my well – the water/ refreshing of God was not able to flow freely if my well remained stopped.
Matthew 18:6 says, “But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.”
“Your well is not dry, it is stopped up, unstop your well.”
Avoiding offense and offending others has been quite difficult in the past year. It seems no matter what we say, someone gets offended. I don’t believe we can successfully avoid causing offense every single day – but I do think we can do better.
When someone says something to you that is offensive, stop! Take a deep breath before responding. Respond in love and patience. Also, be careful not to say things in a demeaning way that would cause offense.
And please don’t be one of those who share misinformation on social media. If you don’t know for a FACT it is truth, don’t share it. That one thing alone would stop a lot of offense.
Offense is not the only thing that can stop up our well. The Philistines clogged up Isaacs well because they were jealous of the blessing of God in his life. Jealousy and envy can stop up a well.
Some other things that will stop up our wells are division, strife, unforgiveness, sin, and disobedience. I am sure there are more, but you get the picture.
Today, I want to encourage you to seek God. Ask Him if there are any things you need to repent of that may have stopped up your well. Ask Him to show you any areas that need to be dug out. You see, I didn’t know I had hurt my friend. Truthfully, I probably didn’t want to know I had hurt her – but it had to be dug out and dealt with. Only then could the refreshing water of God flow freely in my life and in hers. Thank God for Him showing me this offense, as unpleasant as it was. I am thankful.
Friends, we need our wells clean and clear – the water of the word of God must flow freely in us and through us. May we all unstop our wells today and water the earth with His word and His presence.
Appoint My Days
I am righteous and I am prospering. When the righteous prosper, a city rejoices, therefore, my city rejoices, and my neighbors are glad! I leave an inheritance to my grandchildren! The wealth of the wicked and all those who do not please the Lord is laid up for and handed over to me!
Proverbs 13:22, Eccl. 2:26