Several times over the weekend I heard the same message preached by several different ministers.  It felt like a warning message to me, perhaps to you as well.

Each message was talking about relationships.  Not only marriage, but friends as well.

I believe it is more important than ever who we hang around – who we spend our time with – who we allow to speak into our lives.

We simply cannot keep company with critical, judgmental, complaining people.  While we may think we can spend time with them and keep our eyes on God, I have news for you.  Some of their negativity will get in your head and heart, and it will, without fail, affect you.

1 Corinthians 15:33 says, “Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”

There is no way around it, what goes in your ears and mind, must be dealt with.  Have you ever had an offense in your heart and worked to get it out?  It’s not easy, is it?  No!  It goes in much easier than it comes out.  It’s the same with negative, critical words – you can’t un-hear them any more than you can unscramble eggs.

Proverbs 22:24-25 says, “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared.”

It is the same with a person who is always angry.  DO NOT HANG AROUND AN ANGRY PERSON.  It is most definitely a snare.  Why?  Their anger will eventually affect you and you will find yourself becoming angry at things that there is no reason to be angry about.

Words are powerful.  They will affect us.  Whether they are good words of life or words of anger and criticism – be careful – for they will certainly get in your heart.

Proverbs 13:20 says, “Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm.”

Over the years the people I spend my time with have changed greatly.  I used to think I could spend time with people who didn’t want to walk close with God and who did not desire to follow His ways but the longer I walk with God, the more those things grieve my spirit.

I even have family that I cannot spend a lot of time with because they are so critical and judgmental.  I have learned for myself, it is easy to listen to that stuff and think it doesn’t affect you but it is extremely difficult to get it out of your heart.  I have also learned it will affect my thoughts if I allow it to.

Proverbs 18:24 says, “One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.”

Over the past decade I have allowed God to bring the friends HE wants into my life.  I have found that is so much easier.

Who are you spending the most time with today?  Is it someone who lifts you up and encourages you?  Someone who speaks the Word of God over you?  Or is it someone who spends the majority of their time complaining and judging others?  It is someone who has a spirit of anger and refuses to acknowledge it?  If so, stay away from them.

It is important who we spend the majority of our time with – make sure it’s friends that are pleasing to God and encouraging and uplifting to you.  In that, you will find peace.



Meditate on this!

The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray. Proverbs 12:26